Cash doesn’t make up for loss

A friend of mine died this week. I posted a status, my farewell to him, and the only comment on it is a friend of mine who reminds me that I should remind people about the fundraiser going around for him. That really hurt, and today she asked me to spread the word about the fundraiser. Now, if she had done that INSTEAD of jacking my Facebook, maybe it wouldn’t have bothered me. But it just feels like she is taking over my grief and not allowing me to feel it. I want to support them, yes, but there’s more going on here than money. There is hurt, injury, so much pain, and yes his wife needs money, but you know what else she needs? Love! Tenderness! Beautiful stories about his life. I never deleted her comment because I want to support the family, but its just so hard for me.