#Throughfire

As Quarantine began, the community led by Catholic Creatives exploded with innovators inspired to help others through their struggles. We faced our own giants of fear and trepidation, but something in us drove us to community and fellowship. My desire was to fill social media with art to help with the constant deluge of news all over our feeds. I went to Catholic Creatives who had a similar desire and together we launched the #throughfire.

We asked that you create art and share it on every form of social media. Now, the quarantine is at an awkward point of being kind of over but not really, and #throughfire is changing. Catholic Creatives must get back to their daily projects, so suzannagoretti.com will be the new home for the project. I will be sharing your art and hopefully getting to talk to you as you create it. I hope to get all kinds of projects involved so we can all see how many of us are joining together to walk through fire hand in hand.

Please continue to share your amazing works, so that we can keep this fire going. Thank you for all you are doing to bring Beauty to the darkness.

“Grab her pu***”

Ok, I am not a political person. If you know me at all you know this. I avoid the news like some people avoid horror movies, I have never voted for a candidate who was republican or democrat, I tend to either become silent or leave a conversation if it becomes political even remotely. My husband is the only person who knows many of my political leanings or ideas because I think it sours people and relationships to get into the kind of debate politics tends to spark. However, something came up in my personal life today that I just have to comment on. It is completely irrelevant in some ways because the conversation centered around Trump and whether he is good or bad he is in charge. In some ways, however, it is more than relevant, and will be at any time in any culture.

A person in my life and I were arguing today, honestly I’m not even sure what the argument was about. I thought it was whether or not I had reason to believe Trump was a bad person, but later she said she agreed he was bad but kept defending her side, so I have no idea. The important part of the conversation, however, was that I told her about what Trump said about it being ok for a man to “grab her pu***.” Her immediate response was to tell me that she saw a post on Facebook of women in plunging necklines and she couldn’t help but think “What did they expect?”

Ok. For those of you who already understand why this is an issue, I’ll let you just sit with that for a second.

Imagine the screams that wanted to emerge from me. Suffice it to say, that any true emotion(that disagrees with hers) is not accepted by this person, however, so I was required to keep my calm.

Here we go.

IT IS NEVER OK FOR A MAN TO SEXUALLY ASSAULT A WOMAN.

You may say, “well, duh of course not, but what did they think was going to happen?”

No.

“Don’t you think they are inviting it?”

No.

Just. No.

It is infuriating to me that this kind of ignorance is touted as a real teaching in Christianity. Modesty, which by the way does not mean “Cover every inch of your body, you are disgusting and a temptation,” is taught as if it does. Women are encouraged not to be alone with men, because then we are encouraging them. If a woman wears something too tight, too low, too loose, then we are tempting them. I grew up traditional Catholic with weekly if not daily lectures on modesty, do you know how often I heard men talked to about respecting the wfemale body? Exactly never. I don’t count anti-porn addiction because the way that is taught is really as just another thing for men to blame their bad behavior on.(Not saying porn is ok, in fact that is a huge post for another time.)

I never heard anyone talk about how to respect a woman’s body and boundaries.

[I should note, before I go on, that while I never heard this talk to men growing up, I did have a fantastic college professor who discussed how men should view women, and he helped me to understand what I am talking about in this post.]

Now, first of all, this is a teaching that is not really even necessary for most women, because women have not been taught that anything we do is excused by the clothes that men wear.

Second of all, the example far too frequently used “if you put a great dessert on the table, do you expect people to eat it?” is laughable and demeaning. A woman’s body is not food for a man to take as he wishes. I don’t care if I put cookies out on the table and you eat them. Cookies are not a part of a human being, they do not have consciousness, they do not (as far as we know) have an opinion as to whether or not they are eaten. I could go into the Christian argument that woman’s body is made in the image of God and is therefore sacred, but I’d rather simply say, a woman is a PERSON, not an object.

Those who talk about how women “objectify” themselves by dressing in a certain way, need to reflect on what they are saying. A woman who is a PERSON makes herself an OBJECT because she wears something that does not fit into your guidelines of what is appropriate.

Is that true? Can we accuse a woman of doing that? Women in Africa go topless everyday, are they objects now or still people? When a baby is born naked, are they only an object because they are not wearing clothes? No. And it would be ridiculous to say so. But, you say, these states of dress are appropriate in their culture, or their situation. Back to the Facebook comment, what is and had been for some time the culture of Hollywood? Revealing, provocative styles designed to make a statement are the cultural fashion if you will. A plunging neckline is frequently the mildest of these things, but even a piece that pushes boundaries farther still fits into the culture of that situation.

Those who argue that women are objectifying themselves, are basically saying that a man can treat this kind of woman however he wants because she has made herself an object. No matter what a woman is wearing she still has the basic reasoning and consciousness of self that is the typical way of recognizing personhood. She is and always will be a person, and can NOT be treated like an object.

The argument itself is actually degrading in a deeply sinister way if you think about it. No one argues that a man is compromising his personhood if he wears no shirt, but if a woman wears a deep v, she is no longer a person?

Take a second to think about that.

Why do women only possess personhood if you deem their outfit appropriate?

Honestly, I feel that there’s nothing I can add to that.

Why am I only a person, therefore deserving respect, if I wear what you say I should?

Note: This isn’t meant to be a philosophical essay, or I could have gone into the definition of personhood and argued more academically my points. My point is to say my thoughts on the issue today, and these are them, do with them what you will.

Suddenly So Alive

Art, and the beauty inside it, is meant to shock us,
Wrench us forward into being alive.
Suddenly a light is incandescent in our field of life,
Not line of sight, like some would say-that’s not enough

No, it comes across our field of is, was, will be,
And shines for just a moment, like a glimpse
Of peripheral vision. Pain that lights up the skies.
Tears that won’t quite come to touch wounds that won’t quite heal.

In that one shining moment we are alive,
We are touched by what is, saved by grace,
The stars are the brightest in the dark  night skies,
And loves shine brighter than the brightest green eyes.

So what do we do in this moment when everything is right?
What do we say when grieving gives way to dancing,
And for just one moment our hearts can breathe?
Well, I pray that we accept the high that oxygen brings,

I pray that we finally breathe the clear blood of peace,
Soaring high above our own hearts in invincible faith,
Overtaken by courage from another world,
And commit ourselves to another day to just be.

Living Faith-The Exciting Way

Tonight I told the Youth Group that I am leaving to go to LA. I’m not going to lie it was pretty hard. I would have chickened out if it weren’t for an amazing homily by the Deacon about how important it is to do God’s Will and don’t look back. (See bottom of the page for Luke 9:51-62) It was kinda like a slap in the face, like Jesus looking down and being like “Stop screwing around! You are wasting time with what you have been given, just GO. Do what I have called you to do and stop wasting it. Don’t kill your dreams this early in you life, live your adventure. I made you who you are.” That meant everything to me. God being willing to speak to me and get me going. Plus, the community has been so supportive so far, and the fact that I got the ball rolling on this is so helpful. I just ask God to help me to persevere no matter what happens, to just keep going and not ask questions. I wanted to make a leap of faith, to show Him I believe He can do anything. I have opened a spot in my life for Him to work, now I just need to make sure that the investments I make are in the right directions. I am going to start auditioning as soon as I get to CO and until then I am going to work on my monologue and audition for Holywood, and I am going to keep talking to everyone I know in film, and trying to find my way. Also, as everyone finds out that I am leaving Palmyra, I will be able to post on my facebook about seeking work in Los Angeles/Film, and hopefully someone will need someone or something and I will be able to get out there. I need a financial MIRACLE, or even just a job out there, but God wills this, I know He does and He will come through for me.

“Ask and you shall receive, Seek and You Shall find.” 

Lord, I will live like I believe in you.

 

 

When the days for Jesus’ being taken up were fulfilled,
he resolutely determined to journey to Jerusalem,
and he sent messengers ahead of him. 
On the way they entered a Samaritan village 
to prepare for his reception there,
but they would not welcome him
because the destination of his journey was Jerusalem. 
When the disciples James and John saw this they asked,
“Lord, do you want us to call down fire from heaven
to consume them?” 
Jesus turned and rebuked them, and they journeyed to another village.

As they were proceeding on their journey someone said to him,
“I will follow you wherever you go.” 
Jesus answered him,
“Foxes have dens and birds of the sky have nests,
but the Son of Man has nowhere to rest his head.”

And to another he said, “Follow me.” 
But he replied, “Lord, let me go first and bury my father.” 
But he answered him, “Let the dead bury their dead. 
But you, go and proclaim the kingdom of God.” 
And another said, “I will follow you, Lord,
but first let me say farewell to my family at home.” 
To him Jesus said, “No one who sets a hand to the plow
and looks to what was left behind is fit for the kingdom of God.”Luke 9:51-62

Inspiration By Faith

“An essential function of genuine beauty, as emphasized by Plato, is that it gives man a healthy “shock”, it draws him out of himself, wrenches him away from resignation and from being content with the humdrum – it even makes him suffer, piercing him like a dart, but in so doing it “reawakens” him, opening afresh the eyes of his heart and mind, giving him wings, carrying him aloft.”

LA or Bust Update

After praying and considering and more praying, I have decided to leave the job I am currently at, so that I can put all of my energy into finding a job in Los Angeles, CA, that will enable me to work on getting into the film business. The city that I am living now is super small(pop. 3000) with very little connection to the arts, and the closest big city is smaller than my hometown, so I am moving to my hometown so that I can at least do some work related to  film while I figure out how to get to an area that is more heavily populated with filmmakers, and maybe even get a job in film, while I am there that enables me to move to an area that I can get really heavily involved. I am praying for guidance and help to find my next move. 

The Bible Verse that has stuck out to me for over a year and been so hard for me to relate has been “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find.” So, I feel like it is important for me to voice what I want. 

I want to act.
I want to start acting in the best way possible.
I want a job that will provide for my living expenses before I move somewhere, or enough money that I don’t have to worry about it.
I want to be a part of a solid Catholic community of filmmakers so that I have others keeping me accountable to being a virtuous person as I strive to do what I care about so much.
I want a job that will not interfere with my growth as an actress and filmmaker.

Lord, there are so many unspoken intentions that you know I have, and you know the fear that resides in my heart as I wait to figure out what I am supposed to do, and have given up the path that I chose, please show me Your Path for me.

Anything But Victimless

I have been really praying a lot lately about my life and trying to figure things out, and I realized yesterday that I have been making myself into a victim. I have been putting myself down-violently, blaming my parents, cursing my lack of money, being generally angry at God and the world. And all for what? Because I am not doing what I want to do with my life. Whose fault is that?

So, I am now working really hard to get out of that victim stage, and praying for guidance. The Great Gatsby, TEDtalks, and several other beacons of hope that I have encountered recently have given me the courage to begin acting fully human again. I only pray that I not give in to the laziness and confusion that beckons to me every day, and that I instead continue to work forward.

May God’s will be done

When I Make a Million Dollars

Someday-When I make a million dollars
$1,000,000
1. 1/10 to Charity(Maybe find at least one person who has always wanted to get into acting, and give them the money to help them get started, or start a foundation that does that)
900,000

2. Pay off Student Loans
830,000

3. Pay off Car and Buy a New One(from Tommy if he is still working at Freedom Honda)
800,000

4. Pay off Mom and Dad’s Student Loans
700,000

5. Buy a Condo
500,000

6.Living Expenses for the year
100,000

7. Invest 400,000

Acting Homework

“If you don’t live what you believe, then you will believe what you live.”
I firmly believe this. And in order to start living this, she also assigned what do I want to be famous for?

How do I want to be known?(IF I become famous)
I want to be known for NOT seeking fame or money, but enjoying what I have.
I want to be known for acting, writing and directing that enters deep into your soul and tears out a reaction from you. I want you to laugh, cry, or want to punch something when you see a work I have done.
I want to be someone who is healthy, a good shape, without being ridiculously skinny, but not fat either. I want to take good care of myself.
I want to be known for a healthy lifestyle outside of acting.
I want to be known for being professional at my job of acting, directing, writing, singing(if I get there too.)
I want to be known for diversity of talents.
I want to be known for my LOVE. For a sincere, Godly, love and compassion for everyone, no matter what.
I want to be known for my solid spirituality in the world that tends to ruin that.
I want to be known for dedication to a dream that I believe God blesses.
I want to be known for being REAL. Always, very, and completely real.

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